How to make the best choices

When faced with limits, we must make our choices wisely.  Choose poorly and you can be left with something that seemed necessary but does not provide you with what you need.  Weighing the benefits of immediate gratification versus long term usefulness can help make more informed decisions and ultimately more long term satisfaction.


Longing to Belong

Sometimes we go along to be a part of something we feel is valuable.  It is important to not get lost in wanting to belong and risk compromising who we are along the way.  Staying within your moral compass allows you to be comfortable with who you are and surround yourself with like-minded people who have your best interests in mind.

What are my options?

We often look to the things we do not have control of to justify our actions to attain what we feel we need.  It is helpful to identify those things we can control in order to allow us to embrace all that we have the power to change.   With this knowledge we can determine if focusing on what we cannot control is about meeting a need or simply resistance to not having choices.

What do I need?

Everything we do adds to who we are.  If we combine healthy choices, we are more likely going to have positive outcomes.  Likewise, if we combine too many negative choices, we risk things not going so well and potential consequences.  It takes a combination of factors to create the right recipe for making good choices.  Physical health, good nutrition, and a good support system are a few key facets in making sure we are in a prime position to choose wisely.

How can I help?

We often get asked by others help to fix a problem.  Why do others look to us to solve situations?  Why do they feel we have the answers?  Sometimes we can get too close to a problem to objectively make a good decision.  We can fall victim to suggesting something and not being prepared to take our own advice.   Caution is important when encouraging others; as we cannot make the choice for them nor can we be responsible for the outcome….good or bad.  The only decisions we can be held accountable for are our own….so we must choose wisely.  Consider if you would be willing to do the same before you make a claim.

Stephanie Phillips, LCMHC

Stephanie Phillips, LCMHCS, NCC, CCTP
Psychotherapist & Owner
The Mindly Group, PLLC